CSA: Fundraising

As a part of moving on from my sexual abuse and raising awareness of it. I would like to, in the near future, do some fundraising for charities that help people who are going through and have been through sexual abuse.

I’m not entirely sure what I will be doing but I’m hoping to do something with my poetry, some challenges and maybe some events.

I’ll post anything that is going on here and on my facebook page.

– Stacey xo

CSA: Fundraising

As a part of moving on from my sexual abuse and raising awareness of it. I would like to, in the near future, do some fundraising for charities that help people who are going through and have been through sexual abuse.

I’m not entirely sure what I will be doing but I’m hoping to do something with my poetry, some challenges and maybe some events.

I’ll post anything that is going on here and on my facebook page.

– Stacey xo

Life: One Step Closer

Time seems to be going by so quickly at the moment! The big move to Cardiff is getting so close and so many things are coming to an end. In some ways it is sad to see things coming to an end in Bournemouth and other ways it exciting as I am going to see new things, meet new people and get to start a whole new chapter in my life with Katie-Jo.

On Monday I had my last shift at work. I have only been working there since January but it has been amazing, I have met a lot of people and worked along side people who I hope to stay in touch with. It was important for me to have a job this year at university as it has helped me on some of my hardest days by giving me something to get up in the morning for and something to focus on. I was so lucky that my boss was so supportive whilst the police investigation was going on. When I got offered my job back in December 2013 I couldn’t wait to start, I was going to be back in an environment I was used to and I was going to be able to get out of the house and have something to do with my time. Having a job makes me feel as though I have a purpose and has always given me a way to concentrate my mind something that was very important this year as everything was feeling so raw again.
The prospect of having to look for another job when we move to Cardiff is daunting, but I’m definitely looking forward to the challenge. I’m also looking forward to having the chance to meet new people and to be able to learn new skills. Hopefully it won’t take me too long to find a new job.
As one chapter closes and another one is closer to starting. While it was sad to say goodbye to the people I worked with and also my job I am looking forward to moving with Katie-Jo and all of the exciting things that are going to come our way as a result of moving.

– Stacey xo

Life: One Step Closer

Time seems to be going by so quickly at the moment! The big move to Cardiff is getting so close and so many things are coming to an end. In some ways it is sad to see things coming to an end in Bournemouth and other ways it exciting as I am going to see new things, meet new people and get to start a whole new chapter in my life with Katie-Jo.

On Monday I had my last shift at work. I have only been working there since January but it has been amazing, I have met a lot of people and worked along side people who I hope to stay in touch with. It was important for me to have a job this year at university as it has helped me on some of my hardest days by giving me something to get up in the morning for and something to focus on. I was so lucky that my boss was so supportive whilst the police investigation was going on. When I got offered my job back in December 2013 I couldn’t wait to start, I was going to be back in an environment I was used to and I was going to be able to get out of the house and have something to do with my time. Having a job makes me feel as though I have a purpose and has always given me a way to concentrate my mind something that was very important this year as everything was feeling so raw again.
The prospect of having to look for another job when we move to Cardiff is daunting, but I’m definitely looking forward to the challenge. I’m also looking forward to having the chance to meet new people and to be able to learn new skills. Hopefully it won’t take me too long to find a new job.
As one chapter closes and another one is closer to starting. While it was sad to say goodbye to the people I worked with and also my job I am looking forward to moving with Katie-Jo and all of the exciting things that are going to come our way as a result of moving.

– Stacey xo

CSA: My Road To Closure

When I first thought about getting some sort of ‘closure’ from what has happened to me I didn’t know what or how I wanted to go about it. Here are some of the things I have done and am wanting to do.

My first step was to try and gain some kind of closure was to try and prosecute my abuser, this was unsuccessful due to my abuser committing suicide a week after being questioned by the police.

After discussing with several people including my counsellor and Katie-Jo I decided that I would like to revisit the places in which the abuse took place. I know some people may argue that this will cause me to bring back unnecessary pain and bad memories. But I would like to revisit those places to put the bad memories to rest and also to be able to create some good memories in their place.

I want to raise awareness about sexual abuse, there are several ways in which I want to do this firstly I have been and I am in the process of writing a memoir about my experience which I hope to publish in some way. I would also like to do some fundraising in the future for charities which help victims and survivors of sexual abuse.

Over time I hope to forgive my abuser for what he did. I don’t know how or when I will be able to do this. In some ways I feel as though I already am beginning to do this however at other times I feel as though it is something I will never be able to do. This is something that I feel only time can help me with.

– Stacey xo

CSA: My Road To Closure

When I first thought about getting some sort of ‘closure’ from what has happened to me I didn’t know what or how I wanted to go about it. Here are some of the things I have done and am wanting to do.

My first step was to try and gain some kind of closure was to try and prosecute my abuser, this was unsuccessful due to my abuser committing suicide a week after being questioned by the police.

After discussing with several people including my counsellor and Katie-Jo I decided that I would like to revisit the places in which the abuse took place. I know some people may argue that this will cause me to bring back unnecessary pain and bad memories. But I would like to revisit those places to put the bad memories to rest and also to be able to create some good memories in their place.

I want to raise awareness about sexual abuse, there are several ways in which I want to do this firstly I have been and I am in the process of writing a memoir about my experience which I hope to publish in some way. I would also like to do some fundraising in the future for charities which help victims and survivors of sexual abuse.

Over time I hope to forgive my abuser for what he did. I don’t know how or when I will be able to do this. In some ways I feel as though I already am beginning to do this however at other times I feel as though it is something I will never be able to do. This is something that I feel only time can help me with.

– Stacey xo

Life: Moving

I have spent a lot of time over the past week thinking in reality how lucky I actually am. I have an incredible fiancée who has given me a ridiculous amount of support over the last year, I have an amazing family and an incredible group of friends.

There have been plenty of challenges and hurdles over the past year but I’m still here, and I have a new chapter in my life that is just about to start.
Two weeks today me and Katie-Jo will be waking up for the first time in our new house in Cardiff. I am so excited. It’s going to be such an amazing new adventure. I can’t wait to have our own house together – its a huge step in a relationship to move in together. Yes we do live together now, but we also live with 3 other people as well – it hasn’t ever just been the two of us. So I really can’t wait for everything to be ‘ours’ and only have to worry about the two of us. I’m just so excited for this next year.
Things I am looking forward to:
 
  • Moving House
  • Finding a New Job
  • Starting My New Course
  • Settling in to Cardiff
  • Meeting New People
There are so many other things I’m looking forward to as a part of moving, it just feels like its such a positive step in the right direction.
– Stacey xo